Stop Stressing

Stress is something we have all experienced. This coronavirus has stressed everyone out — from the babies who are missing their friends and having a hard time coping with virtual learning to the elderly who for a time couldn’t have visitors in their nursing homes.  Personally, I was already working from home but I missed socializing dearly and once I could, I was genuinely scared to do so. I’m single with no kids and both of my parents are deceased so technically I have no immediate family. I spend 80% -90% of my time alone so the last thing I needed was more alone time but by the grace of God, I survived the loneliness and was able to stay coronavirus-free.  If you are reading this, you survived too! If you contracted the virus, I’m so glad you were able to recover because there are thousands who didn’t. May their souls rest in peace.

Now What Exactly is Stress?

Stress is a feeling of emotional or physical tension. It can come from any event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry, or nervous. Stress can be your body’s reaction to a challenge or demand. In short bursts, stress can be positive, such as when it helps you avoid danger or meet a deadline. However, if stress lingers for long periods of time it can be detrimental to your mental, physical, and emotional well-being.

According to the American Institute of Stress:

  •  33 % of people report feeling extreme stress
  • 77 % of people experience stress that affects their physical health
  • 73 % of people have stress that impacts their mental health
  • 48 % of people have trouble sleeping because of stress

Relieve Stress

Stress is inevitable. At some point in our lives, things will go awry and it’s up to us as self-loving individuals to try our best to keep it to a minimum. Here are a few of my favorite ways to relieve stress.

  1. Say NO!

Stress is often a result of being overwhelmed. When you have too much going on in your life or you just need some me time, it’s okay to tell people NO. NO, I can’t help you. NO, I’m not coming. NO, you will have to find someone else this time. No is an important component of self-care. Utilize it.

  1. Take a relaxing bath.

I love a hot bath with Epson salt, bubbles, vitamin E oil (good for skin), and good music. I dim the lights, soak, bathe, and just vibe. I can often feel the tension leaving my body and as a bonus I’m clean and moisturized afterward.

  1. Go for a walk (exercise).

I’ve learned that taking a break for a little physical rejuvenation can work wonders on my disposition and it’s good for the body. The key is to take that time for you, momentarily forgetting about what’s stressing you and focusing on your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

  1. Talk to someone

Whether it’s your therapist, a good friend, or a mentor, sometimes talking about your situation helps. Talking through an issue is not the same as complaining or whining. It’s giving yourself permission to verbally release your emotions…..pain, frustration, sadness, anger, etc. They should never stay pent up for too long. Find someone trustworthy and let it out, girl.

  1. Sex

I typically only do this when I have a Boo because I am not a fan of casual hookups. However, an active sex life is healthy and has been scientifically proven to help boost your immune system, lower blood pressure, burn calories, and EASE STRESS. However, it’s important that you sex responsibly protecting yourself from STDs, unwanted pregnancies, and detrimental soul ties.

I hope these suggestions help you lower your stress levels. For more great tips on how to relieve stress follow me on social media.


Jae Henderson is the founder of I’m A Good Woman, an author, PR consultant and the founder of the singles empowerment group Happy & Single. Feel free to connect with her on IG at jaehendersonauthor.